Additional Marks Post #5 - Read with caution, evaluating certain individuals -

Additional Marks (Bonus: Becoz Ben is Greedy)


I actually presented this a few days back, and would like to state facts and some tips as well.

Fact #1: The course did show a lot of lack of emotional intelligence.

Fact #2: Most of what we presented was due to signs and issues that we saw in the course.

Fact #3: Above are reasons why you should read my post. (Convinced yet?)

Like I have said, our course needs to chill. Honestly, there are 2 types of people: the one that is suffering from the lack of Emotional Intelligence, and another is the one that is suffering because of the one that is lacking.

Let me say this: Both are at fault, this does not exclude me. And I will split it up into two categories.

First Category: The One that is Lacking (I fall under this category, just saying>.<)

You are not at fault because of the lack of emotional intelligence, you are at fault because you never tried. In Daniel Goleman's framework, most of us fall under self-awareness and empathy. I urge all of you falling under this category to GO and do some research about it. As we have not been aware about it, but got hints: You reject ideas, and change. You keep telling yourself you are right. You realize that people start to ignore you. That is because your approach is wrong. Accept it that you are wrong, there is nothing wrong with making a mistake, learn from it. And lastly, learn and observe your surroundings, DO IT WITH ALL YOUR MIGHT TO OBSERVE EVERYONE.

Second Category: The One that is the Victim (My Groupmates, thanks for putting up with my shit)

You are also at fault, at fault for not doing anything about it. We already know there is a lack of Emotional Intelligence in certain individuals, don't get angry with them, don't scold them. Understand that it is difficult without awareness, we lack a lot of empathy. What we can do if we get irritated is to nicely tell them, 'I would need to finish my work first, is it ok if I help you after that?' Then do your stuff and help them after that. Don't forget to help them. and if they keep coming for help, do tell them NICELY they need to look up the basics not rely on you. NICELY.

That's  about it... I hope this is a start for you guys, MAY THE FORCE BE WITH YOU GUYS~!!!!!
if you want to read:

http://www.danielgoleman.info/daniel-goleman-how-emotionally-intelligent-are-you/
https://www.mentor-coach.eu/EN/articles/observing_feelings.html

Reflection on Learning in the Course: Blog Post #4

  It has been a long 11 weeks of learning about communication skills, and I am glad to say that I have learnt a lot in this period of time. I had two objectives at the start of this course, to accept my surrounding's views, and also to improve my presentation skills.

  As I have stated in my first post, coming to an understanding with other's perception forces me to put on ideals of my own onto him/her. As it is inbuilt within me, I absolutely despise being told what to do, or that I have to follow someone's else because they think it is easier. I believe everyone has their own way of doing things. Unfortunately, when it comes to ideas and worldviews, I do force some of mine onto others. During this course, I did pick up something brilliant. I read an article given by my lecturer about 'perceiving others', in this article it states that understanding others will lead to a rapid discovery of truth. I put some thought into it, and realized that I do learn a lot of ideas, truth, and how people view different situations, but this is only when I take down the barrier. The barrier that 'your views are always right', More said from Carl Rogers, the article that I was reading about, he stated that truth is actually approached when defenses are dropped. It was an eye opener to read it, it was only then, I realized I did not have to force anyone's truth, nor follow his truth, but taking down the barrier and accepting that he has his own truths makes myself learn more, and understand the world for the better.

  This is not all, through digging and trying my best to make a good grade from the presentation, I learn many tactics about presenting, especially as the conclusion specialist. I learn that if an audience is able to question themselves, and bring something back with them, the conclusion was powerful. And although I had glossophobia, a powerful speech comes from yourselves, believing in what you need to deliver. I would be glad to say that this is not the end for me, I will have a lot more to give myself, a lot more presentations to give in the near future, and along the way, I will continue researching on different ways to excel myself in communicating to an audience.

Thank you for everything SEM1902 Friday class, but I learn a lot about you guys as well. Hope all of you read this can comment. >.<


Best Regards,

Benjamin Lu     signing off