Additional Marks Post #5 - Read with caution, evaluating certain individuals -

Additional Marks (Bonus: Becoz Ben is Greedy)


I actually presented this a few days back, and would like to state facts and some tips as well.

Fact #1: The course did show a lot of lack of emotional intelligence.

Fact #2: Most of what we presented was due to signs and issues that we saw in the course.

Fact #3: Above are reasons why you should read my post. (Convinced yet?)

Like I have said, our course needs to chill. Honestly, there are 2 types of people: the one that is suffering from the lack of Emotional Intelligence, and another is the one that is suffering because of the one that is lacking.

Let me say this: Both are at fault, this does not exclude me. And I will split it up into two categories.

First Category: The One that is Lacking (I fall under this category, just saying>.<)

You are not at fault because of the lack of emotional intelligence, you are at fault because you never tried. In Daniel Goleman's framework, most of us fall under self-awareness and empathy. I urge all of you falling under this category to GO and do some research about it. As we have not been aware about it, but got hints: You reject ideas, and change. You keep telling yourself you are right. You realize that people start to ignore you. That is because your approach is wrong. Accept it that you are wrong, there is nothing wrong with making a mistake, learn from it. And lastly, learn and observe your surroundings, DO IT WITH ALL YOUR MIGHT TO OBSERVE EVERYONE.

Second Category: The One that is the Victim (My Groupmates, thanks for putting up with my shit)

You are also at fault, at fault for not doing anything about it. We already know there is a lack of Emotional Intelligence in certain individuals, don't get angry with them, don't scold them. Understand that it is difficult without awareness, we lack a lot of empathy. What we can do if we get irritated is to nicely tell them, 'I would need to finish my work first, is it ok if I help you after that?' Then do your stuff and help them after that. Don't forget to help them. and if they keep coming for help, do tell them NICELY they need to look up the basics not rely on you. NICELY.

That's  about it... I hope this is a start for you guys, MAY THE FORCE BE WITH YOU GUYS~!!!!!
if you want to read:

http://www.danielgoleman.info/daniel-goleman-how-emotionally-intelligent-are-you/
https://www.mentor-coach.eu/EN/articles/observing_feelings.html