Strength and Challenges
As I do not have many qualities in communication, one of a heavily weighted attribute that will excel me in communication is the interest in understanding different worldviews of each individual. Each person holds a certain truth to himself/herself, that perspective is solely his own. It intrigues me how the society and surrounding environment affects one's viewpoint and belief system, together with how he/she was raised as a child. This interest pushes me to desire communication with a variety of individuals. Unfortunately, one's desire is also one's weakness. When someone does not fully comprehend the opposition party's viewpoint, or worst, disagrees with each other the tendency to argue and force their own viewpoint onto others is highly likely, and I believe that that is ones constraint. Communication goes downhill when one puts excessive emotion into his argument point. No, not passion and inspiration, but anger and sadness. Each exchange of sentence carries an emotion and meaning, negative emotions such as anger will disrupt the flow of communication changing a simple debate to a heavy argument. Although born logical and observant, I cannot seem to control myself to not show and force my perspectives at certain situations. This causes misunderstandings and upsets my surroundings, making it difficult for communication to continue smoothly.
Two objectives
Two goals in which I would like to achieve by the end of this course is definitely, to open my mind more into understanding the behavior of others, accepting and opening my mind to their actions and communication purposes. Some people do not understand each other's reasons for acting or doing certain things, and talking in certain ways, and this will help me greatly in socializing with my surroundings. Secondly, presentation poses a problem towards my life. This aspect holds great priority in my future work and job.
Good Day Benjamin! You raise many good points in your post, about how communication tends to get annoying with people when they bring their emotions into the picture and start to sway their opinions and their tone because of it.
ReplyDeleteI disagree when you say that you don't possess many qualities in communication. On the contrary, you excel in approaching and making friends with complete strangers, and if you wanted to, you could easily become very close to a person you're interested in. You possess a keen interest in other people, and crave encounters with a vast spectrum of different kinds of people.
Consequently, you possess much more exposure and experience to different types than most, and are able to communicate with ease, without getting nervous or worried about how they'll react, because you already know.
However, you may as a result have a tendency to rely on this perceived understanding a little too much, and this, coupled with deviation from your emotions, may result in things not exactly going according to plan sometimes.
A suggestion from me would be to go into every new conversation with an open and blank mind, without forming bias or preconceived notions based on what you know about a person. Conversations will be fresh, because when you already talk to a person based on your idea of him, the conversation always tends to steer towards the same direction. It does get rather repetitive after awhile. Treat every new conversation as a new experience, and keep learning new things about people you think you already know. It's a lot more fun that way.
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